"Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not!" - Dr. Seuss
As the mom of five beautiful children, all born under different maternal-care circumstances, I have developed an intense passion for pregnancy, birth, lactation, postpartum, and everything in between. I believe that these tender life stages were well designed by God, and that while extenuating circumstances can occur, most of the time all mothers, babies, and families need is love and support as they navigate through each of these stages. Through my own experiences, I have become increasingly aware of a maternal-infant care crisis in the United States that prevents families from fully accessing the immense power and sacred nature of birth, and this has real impacts on families, evidenced by the country's infant and maternal mortality rates*. A time that should be full of peace and joy is often overshadowed by the misalignment and poor integration of the system.
From the over-medicalization of birth**, to the disenfranchisement of the midwifery-led model of care***, to the societal attack on motherhood as a whole****, mothers and babies are struggling with insufficient and short-sighted care. This is a complex issue, with multiple factors, including history, culture, accessibility, education, costs, etc., but I believe that change is possible. This change can't wait to take effect via laws and regulations (although hopefully those come, too), but it must start with each individual maternal-infant care provider.
We can change the status quo by unapologetically advocating for and providing evidence-based care that prioritizes shared decision-making, fully-informed consent, medical choice, and patient autonomy. Women and babies deserve to experience birth without fear, without coercion, and without violation. This should be non-controversial. These are the factors that have pulled me in to birth work. I realized that I could sit through each of my own pregnancies being upset over the present maternal-infant care systems, or I could do something about them. So I chose to do something about them.
As a full spectrum doula, childbirth educator, student midwife, and maternal-infant advocate, I am dedicated to advocating for and providing access to S.A.F.E. birth - so moms and babies can focus on the peace and joy that should accompany the pregnancy, birth, lactation, and postpartum stages of life with their families.
Moms and babies deserve to have access to medical, emotional, physical, and spiritual support before, during, and after birth.
Moms and babies deserve physiology-affirming care that recognizes that women's bodies were made to birth and nourish babies, and when that can be preserved, it should be.
Moms and babies should be free to make the best decisions for themselves based on relevant evidence, free from fear, coercion, and violation.
Moms and babies deserve care that is fully engaged, not overgeneralized. Each mom and baby is unique and deserves care tailored to their needs and focused on their specific circumstances.
The other major challenge facing moms, babies, and families, is that support after baby is born feels really limited. Mom usually gets one postpartum visit at 4-6 weeks postpartum, baby maybe have a 1-3 appointments in the same time frame, nobody may even check in on dad, and it can be really hard to be honest and vulnerable in a 5-10 minute appointment with you or your baby's provider.
Families often feel so much pressure from outside sources regarding newborn care - where is baby sleeping, how is baby's weight gain, are you breastfeeding or bottle feeding, formula or breastmilk, mom may be preparing to return to work...
My goal in offering postpartum doula services to to help bridge the gap between the support the system offers, and the plentiful and various needs the family has. Not every family has anyone to turn to with their questions and needs, and so often what a family needs most is just support - verbal encouragement, a shoulder to cry on, someone to hug and celebrate the small wins with, someone to listen to "all the things", someone to brainstorm with, someone to research topics and present you with the needed information, someone to do the dishes, someone to sit with kids so mom can shower or nap, etc.... the list is truly never ending.
Every family deserves to have the kind of S.U.P.P.O.R.T. that makes them feel safe, respected, and not alone.
Stealing this from my son's favorite movie, Robots, families deserve to have support from someone who will look around for what needs to be done, and lighten the load where they can, without being asked to.
Families deserve support from someone who can be understanding and meet the family where they are at, and help them get on a positive trajectory without any judgement, criticism, or unrealistic expecations.
Families deserve support from someone who they can connect with on a personal level - who will be invested in what matters most to the family, not just in guidelines or official recommendations.
Families deserve support that is respectful of each family's privacy and sensitive to the vulnerability and intimacy of this time in a family's life.
Families deserve support from someone who is open-minded to the desires of the family, and can help the family find systems and routines that work for the family's personal needs. Often the last thing a family with a new baby needs is more opinons!
Families deserve to be supported by someone who will be respectful of their desires and in how they share information. Providing education and information on relevant guidelines is helpful, but this can be done gently in a way that respects the family.
Families deserve support from someone who is trustworthy - someone who they can trust to watch their children for a short period of time, trust their baby with, trust their honest feelings with.
*the US has the highest infant and maternal mortality rate of all high-income countries: Munira Z. Gunja, Evan D. Gumas, and Reginald D. Williams II, U.S. Health Care from a Global Perspective, 2022: Accelerating Spending, Worsening Outcomes (Commonwealth Fund, Jan. 2023). https://doi.org/10.26099/8ejy-yc74
**the US has one of the lowest spontaneous labor rates, the highest pre-labor cesarean section rate, one of the highest epidural rates, and one of the highest overall cesarean section rates of 12 high-income countries: Seijmonsbergen-Schermers AE, van den Akker T, Rydahl E, Beeckman K, Bogaerts A, Binfa L, Frith L, Gross MM, Misselwitz B, Hálfdánsdóttir B, Daly D, Corcoran P, Calleja-Agius J, Calleja N, Gatt M, Vika Nilsen AB, Declercq E, Gissler M, Heino A, Lindgren H, de Jonge A. Variations in use of childbirth interventions in 13 high-income countries: A multinational cross-sectional study. PLoS Med. 2020 May 22;17(5):e1003103. doi: 10.1371/journal.pmed.1003103. PMID: 32442207; PMCID: PMC7244098.
***in addition to an insufficient number of maternal-neonate care providers overall, with the second lowest ratio of providers to births among 10 developed countries, the United States also has the lowest ratio of midwives to obstetric physicians of all 10 developed countries, despite evidence in support of midwifery-led maternal care reducing intervention rate, maintaining or improving outcomes, and reducing costs: Roosa Tikkanen et al., Maternal Mortality and Maternity Care in the United States Compared to 10 Other Developed Countries (Commonwealth Fund, Nov. 2020). https://doi.org/10.26099/411v-9255